wedding daze: picking a venue
- Kelli
- Jun 3, 2016
- 3 min read
First off.
Wedding venue shopping is almost as daunting as wedding dress shopping... more on that later.
But at least during this time, you have your S.O. there to help you out whereas dress shopping truly can be difficult without the ONE person you trust the most (aside from your mom) there to give their full, honest opinion.
When we first went shopping for a wedding venue, we didn't know what we wanted. All we knew was it was going to be outside.
We had no clue what was in store for us when we started. We had the following "wish list" when we went.
1. Outdoor ceremony & reception site
2. Semi-destination
3. In budget
4. Set up & Tear down included
As for every other detail...
We. Had. No. Clue.
So, with first-hand experience and plenty of friends who are getting or have been married, I've compiled a few tips to help with this process.
Tip #1: ENJOY IT. - really, if you're going venue shopping and your stressed, you're not going to see the site for all it's worth. Take it in and imagine your day there.
Tip #2: Ask a TON of questions. - we had no idea how many things went into picking a venue and what would be included and what would be an additional cost. Compile a list of questions BEFORE walking in to meet with the venue coordinator or planner they have on site.
Yeah, sure they give you pamphlet or tell you to check their website, but that's not the same as asking. I can't even begin to tell you how many emails I sent asking simple questions repeating myself because I still couldn't grasp one simple element such as the table size.
I recommend asking the following questions (in addition to many others, these are some that just get forgotten):
1. Do they offer discounts for different seasons or weddings on Fridays or Sundays? (off-seasons are usually cheaper and Friday and Sundays are typically cheaper as well)
2. Is it handicap accessible?
3. Is there an option to upgrade chairs? If so, what is the cost per chair?
4. What happens if it rains? Does the venue have a tent or backup plan or do we need to have one rented?
5. Is there a minimum guest count required to book a particular venue/site?
6. Is set up and tear down included? If not, will they do it for an additional cost?
7. Does the venue allow outside vendors or only their preferred vendor list?
8. Do I need to provide event insurance? - check out WedSafe
9. Is a Bridal/Honeymoon suite included?
10. Is there a service charge? Is gratuity included?
Like I said, that's only a few questions, I'm sure each question will lead to you another question...
...and then another...
And another...
Tip #3: Have a (very) generalized style/vibe you're looking for. - If you want a ranch/rustic wedding, chances are going to a golf course will not give you that vibe.
Tip #4: Prioritize your wants! If you're DYING for a beach wedding, then you may need to cut the guest count. If you absolutely cannot imagine your wedding without some lawn games, be sure to pick a location that has the extra room for those.
Tip #5: Be mindful of your budget. Without fail, there will be surprise costs later in the planning process. You might be able to get the overall feel and atmosphere for your wedding if you choose a cheaper venue that has most elements you want. Use the saved money for other expenses, such as rentals for your special day or even toward to honeymoon ;)